Free tour worth so much more
I can’t remember exactly when I first found out about pick-up. I know the first videos I watched were of Brad Branson, that was the fall of 2012 I believe, my sophomore year of college. I was down in the dumps because a girl I liked did not share my interest. I went to youtube and searched for videos about getting girls to like you. I stumbled upon Brad. It was an awakening. Since then my interest in pick-up has steadily increased, not because of the validation you get from girls (though that definitely feels good 🙂 ), but due to the growth I have experienced through it. Pick-up turns out to be one of the best vehicles to develop yourself. At least that’s what the folks at RSD want you to believe.
RSD stands for Real Social Dynamics and despite being primarily a pick-up company, they have changed their message over the past few years to really stress self-development. This is why I’m a fan of RSD. You can tell that guys like Tyler, Julien, and Brad have come a long way in their journey as men. Now they use their wisdom to help other guys, like me, improve our social skills, confidence, and integrity. Needless to say, I was ecstatic about the prospect of attending a free tour event. RSD produces a bunch of free content, such as their youtube videos, but the business succeeds because of the events they host in cities around the globe. People pay hundreds, if not thousands of dollars, to go out on the town with instructors. I don’t have the extra cash do throw around like that at the moment so a free tour event was the perfect opportunity for me to see some of the guys in real life. I know other people must get crazy excited when they meet Hollywood celebrities or superstar musicians. This was my equivalent.
After a stressful drive through the worst of Chicago’s traffic, I made it to the Hilton just before 6:30. Not 5 minutes after I roll up they start checking folks in. What do you know, but everyone has huddled into a giant crowd, no lines, and I’m able to scoot in. I introduce myself to a few guys around me and we find some seats together in the 2nd row. I can’t begin to explain how giddy I was to be there. My heart was really racing, I could barely hold still. I seriously can’t remember the last time I was that excited. Before baseball games, I’m able to get into a meditative state that warps the excitement into focus, but this just hit me all at once. When Julien hit the stage it was game over.
Julien started off his talk by opening the floor to the audience for questions. He either gave a short barb of an answer, got some laughs or took note of the question so that he could incorporate it into his speech. I really like how he and the other RSD guys just riff about everything up on the stage. They just go. Anyway, I had been wanting to ask Tyler about how to be present when it “really counts”. I decided to ask Julien because it was being whispered around that Tyler wouldn’t be showing up. In that room, I became incredibly nervous to ask my question. Compared to a lot of the other questions, it sounded dumb. I raised my hand though, knowing that this would be my moment with Julien, eyes locked, him listening to my question. I asked it. My voice kind of wavered, but I spit it out. He just nodded and went on to the next person, probably didn’t think much of it. Such a vague question. I did it though. I asked it in that room, with all those nerves, I overcame my fear. That is what RSD is all about after all.
One of the major themes of Julien’s speech was to stress how one has to embrace the apparent paradoxes of pick-up. The paradoxes only seem to exist because we like to think in black and white when really there is tons of gray. There are so many details and variables to consider when interacting with people in social situations, most of which our brains process subconsciously, but the whole purpose of going out to game is to be able to recognize these in real time and do what is best based on that knowledge. Just like how Neo learns how to manipulate the Matrix, a master pick-up artist like Julien see social interaction in ‘bullet time’ (by the way, I recently watched the first two Matrix movies again because I didn’t really remember them. They are great films. Completely symbolic of how most people live. Applicable on a wide array of levels to society today. Maybe I’ll write about it.) Pick-up is a right of passage, one that takes you from being a provider operating out of fear, into a pure lover.
A couple good quotes from Julien were: “Game should be you breaking free.” and “As soon as you feel good out of state, you are in state”. I want to break free. Both Julien and the second speaker, Madison, stressed how we all just have to get out of our own way. We are already at the top. We just have to remove the parasite of social conditioning. Some social conditioning is good. It teaches you empathy. However, a lot of social conditioning makes you self-conscious and inhibited. I want to live free. Madison made a joke about how we should all be able to be the person we are in the shower, shaking our dick around like a helicopter, at all times (minus our dicks being out lol). Madison also made a couple of book recommendations: Why Beautiful People Have More Daughters, which is about evolutionary psychology, and Wisdom of the Subconscious Mind, which is about our subconscious obviously. I have a lot of points to review and more knowledge to obtain based on what Madison and Julien talked about. That makes me sound theoretical though. Really I must start taking better action. Learn to have the correct assumptions about success and then implement actions that will reinforce those correct assumptions. Success is a practice. Either you win, or you learn how to win. Forward progress. Always.
Tyler couldn’t make it because his flight was delayed. He’s my main dude right now. Such a great public speaker. It would have been wonderful to meet him. I know I will make another opportunity happen. Maybe even attend a hotseat.
His latest instagram post sums up the general message RSD promotes nowadays. He says, “I think it’s worth noting that when I advise men to go have fun with everyone…to share good energy…to treat everyone as a friend…to talk to EVERYONE whether hot or not…to STOP having a creepy agenda with women…to just enjoy the damned night…it’s because it often makes half the women in the club want to take you home. Be cool to people and offer good vibes. It gets consistent, predictable, positive results. The myth that guys need to trick women into wanting them is just that: a myth. Cool fun guys who know how to initiate social interactions and lead them in a win/win direction are a rarity. Become one and stand out, and watch the change in how people respond. An epic life becomes common place. You’re out of the self-limiting trap of scarcity, and off to the happy land of abundance and fun times,”. Like Madison and Julien, Tyler also stresses becoming the fun guy who is free of inhibition. All of them stress these points and you can tell why: they exude these characteristics the majority of the time and experience ridiculous amounts of success. I still have a long ways to go on my journey. Seek truth. Make love. Be present. Live free. Suerte.